Daddy Tips for My Daughter

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As I watch my oldest daughter prepare for college, I realize just how fast the past 17 years have flown by. The memories of my baby girl are fading and have been replaced by images of a young woman who is a beautiful amalgamation of my wife and me. While I want oh so badly to hold on to my first born, she no longer fits in the palm of my hands. I have to let go. But letting go isn’t easy. Actually, letting go is hard.

I want to wrap her up in my arms to protect her from hurt, disappointment, and harm. I want to reverse time and rock her to sleep on my shoulder, or play dolls, or watch endless episodes of Barney together. But I have to let go. My arms aren’t wide enough to contain all that God has in store for her. But as a dad, I cannot let go completely. I still want to have a strong connection with my daughter even if she’s too old for piggyback rides. That’s why I started my Dear Dre project.

On my daughter’s birthday, I decided to write her a weekly letter to say everything I wished I could have or should have said over the years. I think it was of the best decisions I ever made. Over the past 30+ weeks I have written on a variety of topics, but each letter starts off with Dear Dre, and ends with a Daddy Tip and a scripture. It is my way of preaching, teaching, and equipping the soon to be young adult who used to fall asleep drooling on my chest.

Here are a few of the Daddy Tips I’ve shared with her:

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The Dear Dre letters are more than words on a page. They are a way of sharing my soul, my hopes, and my dreams with the little lady that will one day have children of her own. Dear Dre is a two-way conduit which has also gives my daughter a way to express herself and respond to her daddy when the timing is right.

Oddly enough neither one of us ever gives the other one a letter directly. It is a strange dance between father and daughter. The letters magically appear on a work desk, on a bedroom pillow, on luggage before a long trip, and sometimes on the bathroom sink. There is an understanding that tough questions can be asked via these letters and advice can be given in a manner that is loving, well thought out, and without a sense of condemnation.

I am so thankful that I decided to jot down a few words on a page for my daughter during this, her senior year in high school. Now I have to decide what to do for my son as he enters high school. Maybe I will start writing to him a little earlier. I don’t know. Maybe the letters to my daughter will continue, just maybe not at the weekly pace. Who knows. We will have to see. I do know that the words on the page won’t be empty, but they will be a way of ensuring that my kids not only have a sense of who I am, but they also have a template to help them become the best that they can be.

Final Daddy Tip: Spend time with your kids and create memories. They will last longer than any toy or object you will purchase for them.

Stay Strong,

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Join the conversation: Do you have any Daddy (or Mommy) Tips to share?

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About author

Glen Guyton

Glen Guyton is a high-energy event speaker, mentor, a full-time father, and project management professional. He is striving to live his out his purpose by pursing his IDEAL life. He has spoken to thousands of youth and adults throughout North America, Jamaica, South Africa, Zimbabwe, and Ghana. His work has included the development of programs to promote peace and social justice education among urban youth and planning national conventions which draw over 6,000 participants. Glen continues to mentor youth leaders and ministry professionals around the country. He is native of Houston, Texas and currently resides in San Antonio with his wife and two children. www.GlenGuyton.com

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