Marriage Viewpoints: Dealing With the Nail in Your Head

“Don’t try to fix it. I just need you to listen.” Every man has heard these words. And they are the law of the land. No matter what. – Jason Headley

My wife and I have been married for nearly 16 years and I’m still learning that sometimes it’s not about the nail. Over the years, I’ve spent much time focusing on the nails in my wife’s head. I used to think that being right was the most important thing. I’ve since discovered that maintaining our relationship is more important than being right.  I’ve learned to overlook the nails and pay attention to what my wife is really trying to communicate to me.

However, there are other times when it’s all about the nail. Knowing the difference is the key to a successful marriage.

During our marriage, I’ve had to pull out several nails from my wife’s head. She’s pulled plenty from mine too. Marriage all about giving and taking. Talking and listening. But most of all, marriage is about forming a strong partnership where two people can be completely honest with each other. Couples must be brave enough to say, “There is a nail sticking out of your head.” They must also be trusting enough to do something about it.

It’s Not About the Nail from Jason Headley on Vimeo.

Stay Strong,

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Frederick J. Goodall

Frederick J. Goodall is the founder of Mocha Dad - a parenting website focused on fatherhood. He is passionate about parenting and helping men to be great dads, husbands, and role models. You can contact him at or on Twitter at