Do Men Want Their Wives to Be Stay-At-Home Moms?


According to a study conducted by the Pew Research Center, a large percentage of dads want their wives to be stay-at-home-moms. Of the dads surveyed, 37%  think moms should stay home, and 41% think that part-time work is a good compromise.

I’m not surprised by these results. Several of my friends have told me that they wish their wives could stay at home instead of work. For many of them, the extra paycheck is the only thing preventing their wives from becoming stay-at-home moms.

Many people will view the survey results as another example of a patriarchal society determined to keep women barefoot and pregnant. I don’t see it that way. Instead, I see it as a shift in priorities. Whereas climbing the corporate ladder was once the only measure of success, people have started to place more value on parenting and family life.

As a child growing up in the 70s and 80s, I got to witness women making great strides in the workforce. My mother, for example, has been employed full-time since she was 19 years old. Most of that time was spent as a single mom raising two children. My mom worked hard and always provided for us as did my aunts, cousins, and most of the women I knew. Going to work was as much a part of their lives as was being a mother.

There were a few women in my neighborhood who didn’t work, because their husbands did hold on to the sexist notion that women were not supposed to work. These women stayed at home, cared for the kids, and made sure that their husbands had a hot meal on the table when they got home from the job.

Observing these different perspectives on women in the workplace shaped my point of view on gender roles and a gave me some perspective on how different families functioned.

When I met my wife in college, I was attracted to her because she was focused, intelligent, and hard-working. Being a stay-at-home mom was the furthest thing from her mind…Read the rest of the article here

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Question: Do you or your spouse stay at home with the kids? If so, what factors did you consider when making the decision?

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Frederick J. Goodall

Frederick J. Goodall is the founder of Mocha Dad - a parenting website focused on fatherhood. He is passionate about parenting and helping men to be great dads, husbands, and role models. You can contact him at or on Twitter at

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