Men Must Take a Stand Against Domestic Violence: My Personal Pledge

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It saddens me when I hear men joking about hitting their wives or girlfriends. I always speak up and let them know that Domestic Violence is no joking matter. As someone who has lived through domestic violence, I never want anyone to take it lightly.

I specifically target men in my discussions about domestic violence because they are the perpetrators of violence in 95 percent of domestic assaults according to the Department of Justice. In addition, I’ve witnessed men attack women and did nothing to stop it. After an experience with one of my friends in college, I decided to never implicitly condone violence against women with my silence.

Every nine seconds in the U.S., a woman is assaulted or beaten, according to Domestic Violence Domestic violence continues to be the leading cause of injury to women – more than car accidents, muggings and rapes combined.

This violence must stop and men must be willing to take a stand. I’ve developed a personal pledge that helps to guide me in my journey towards eliminating domestic violence. I encourage all men to take the same pledge:

These commitments have helped to mold my character and influence others around me.

Call to Action:

  • Comments for a cause: For each comment I receive on this post during the month of October, I will donate $1.00 to the Houston Area Women’s Center (Fund raising goal = $500)
  • Men, please post the pledge on your blog and help spread the message. If you aren’t a blogger, share the message with your friends, family, and acquaintances via Facebook, Twitter, Google+, e-mail, or text message.
  • If you are in a violent relationship, seek help immediately (If you are afraid your internet and/or computer usage might be monitored, please use a safer computer, and/or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−7233).
  • If you are committing acts of violence, stop.  Seek counseling from a professional.
  • Volunteer at your local shelter or support financially.

If we all work together, we can end domestic violence.

Stay Strong,

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Frederick J. Goodall

Frederick J. Goodall is the founder of Mocha Dad - a parenting website focused on fatherhood. He is passionate about parenting and helping men to be great dads, husbands, and role models. You can contact him at or on Twitter at