Mocha Dad Talks About Being a Dad

Here is an excerpt of an interview I did with You can read the entire interview at “Dads Deserve Respect Too.”


Tell me about what you didn’t know about fatherhood. What’s surprised you? What were you expecting?

I wasn’t expecting anything because I didn’t know anything. I knew that I would be winging it from the start because I didn’t have any role models. Fatherhood is a journey that each man must discover on his own.

What is the one piece of advice you wish you had before becoming a father?

Keep the bond strong between you and your wife and don’t allow the baby to cause a rift in your relationship.

How do you balance your work and life at home?

I wake up at 5:00 am to go to work and I spend 10-12 hours there. I travel a lot for work, so I also get much of my blogging done in airports, on airplanes, and in hotels.

When I get home, I have dinner with the family and spend a couple of hours with the kids before bedtime. Keep in mind that throughout the week, the kids have music and sports practices, church activities, and scouts. I get the kids ready for bed and read them a book if I have time. [Then], I spend about an hour working on my blog and social networking. I try to spend some time with my wife before heading to bed.

There never seems to be enough time in the day.

What is the hardest part about being a dad?

The hardest part about being a dad is not getting the proper respect. Society places mothers on a pedestal and rightfully so. However, dads are portrayed to be bumbling idiots who are incapable of taking care of a family. A father’s role is important and I wish people would treat it as such.

The best part of being a dad is…

…Sharing my life with three incredible kids.

What are the three best tips you can give a new Dad?

  1. Make your relationship with your wife the most important thing. Kids feel more secure when they know that their parents’ love each other.
  2. Be patient with your children.
  3. Time is the most important gift you can give to your family.

Stay Strong,

About author

Frederick J. Goodall

Frederick J. Goodall is the founder of Mocha Dad - a parenting website focused on fatherhood. He is passionate about parenting and helping men to be great dads, husbands, and role models. You can contact him at or on Twitter at