25 Romantic Ideas for Men from Women


When it comes to romance, many men often are at a loss. Here’s a hint, guys: Do something that shows you’re thinking of her. A Hertfordshire University research study found that women ranked small gestures as quite romantic because they show men are ”thinking of them rather than themselves.” You don’t have to be Don Juan to be romantic. Although the grand romantic gestures such taking a trip to Paris or giving your mate Super Bowl tickets are great, it’s the small gestures that really make the biggest impact.

In my informal survey of blog readers, I can verify that this finding is accurate. I have compiled a list of 25 romantic ideas submitted by women. Men, take note. Here is your chance to become a romantic hero in your mates’ eyes.


  • I find it romantic when my husband buys me flowers for no reason at all. He knows what it takes to get “lucky.” Smart man!! – Shelly
  • My husband makes me cards and he puts a lot of care and thought into the words and how they look. Sometimes they have cut-outs or add-ons. Sometimes they’re funny. Sometimes they’re sentimental. But they are always touching and romantic. – Nancy
  • I find the simple things in life romantic: Cooking together, . sitting at the counter or the Island and watching him cook a meal, receiving a simple card just to let me know he is thinking about me. – Clubcushions
  • What I find romantic are the little things. Dancing in the kitchen in the middle of the day, the coffee already brewed when I wake up in the morning and/or the lunches unexpectedly already packed. The little things that say, “you’re special and I love you.” – WeaselMomma

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  • I like it when my husband gives me a foot massage using peppermint foot lotion. – Deborah
  • Eye contact. Lots of eye contact. It’s too easy to stop making it. – Lori
  • 100% romantic is a totally clean house that got that way through HIS efforts, not mine! – Los angelista
  • I like it when he runs me a hot bubble bath with vanilla scented candles around the tub and the red light on over the tub. – Parlinmom
  • Every single night my husband makes sure there’s a tall glass of ice water on my nightstand just in case I get up in the middle of the night needing a drink. When he goes on deployments, I truly miss this very simple but meaningful and romantic gesture. – Tanyetta
  • I would be perfectly happy just to spend the night watching movies, cuddled up and neither one of us or the kids are sick! – Nicole
  • When my boo calls me in the morning when I am not expecting it….just to tell me good morning and to have a great day…..it most certainly works and it makes me feel all warm and cozy! – Brandi Hamilton

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  • My husband works late almost every night, but makes sure he is home on Monday nights so that we can watch 24 together. It is nice because he knows that it is the only TV show I watch. I love that that is our show…our hour of for sure time each week! We make popcorn & enjoy the show…together:) – He & Me + 3
  • I find those extra little thoughtful gestures romantic. You know, the ones that only happen every so often. Ones that make me know he’s thinking of me and that I’m special. – Diana Rambles
  • Giving sentimental presents everyday for 2 weeks beginning on the 1st day of February. And just randomly calling to ask how I am. – Gabrielle
  • Romance is the silence which occurs in the seconds after kissing the kids goodnight and closing the door behind us. Romance is hugging my husband with kids clinging to our legs threatening the balance we’ve managed to sustain. Romance is watching any program which repeatedly states “Viewer Discretion Advised” because this means we have successfully achieved romantic item number one. Romance is just being with my husband no matter what whirlwind in which we currently reside. – Lauren H
  • Romance is when my hubby helps with the laundry or dishes, because he knows that I am tired and him helping makes it go twice as fast:) – Kelli
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  • Sitting on the beach together, holding hands, and watching the sunset . . . perfection! – Kat
  • I find intellect romantic and sexy. When my baby shares something so profound with me that I have to sit and ponder for a minute, I appreciate the inner beauty and can divulge in the romantic side of sharing real intimacy without even being physical. – Kym
  • There is nothing more romantic to me, than a small gesture. Offer to help me cook dinner. Leave me a love note on the bathroom mirror. Walk over and kiss me, just because. Romance doesn’t have to cost a cent. – Mary Jo
  • I find it romantic that my hubby cleans up after me when I cook. That he gets up with the boys early in the morning, so I can sleep a few more minutes. Flowers and jewelry are nice, but the little things make romance to me. – Jenni Williams
  • I love to stand out on our dock and look at the water at dusk with my sweetie. I also love waking up at the lake and having a hot cup of coffee while peering out at the water. – Liv
  • A card with wording that proves he actually took the time to pick out the perfect one. Holding hands. A spontaneous picnic…even if it’s on the living room floor. Strip UNO. Dinner at a Moroccan restaurant where you sit on gigantic pillows and eat with your fingers…feeding each other. A night where the kids are with relatives. – Christie – The ChatterBox
  • I like long drives together. The conversations remind me of why I love him so much! When we’re at home it’s much different. Daily life keeps conversations to the general stuff, like family, work, boring stuff. However, on those long drives we just talk about…well whatever. – Tomi
  • Taking the day off to spend my 40th birthday with me was AMAZING! It meant so much to me that he took the day off. Kids were in school…we went for a run, went into the city for lunch, and he made dinner. It was a fantastic day! – Susan
  • Anytime hubby does something for me I find it romantic. He is my hero. – Deborah

If you need more ideas, read this post – 18 Ways to be Romantic – Tips for Men

Stay Strong,

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Frederick J. Goodall

Frederick J. Goodall is the founder of Mocha Dad - a parenting website focused on fatherhood. He is passionate about parenting and helping men to be great dads, husbands, and role models. You can contact him at fjgoodall@mochadad.com or on Twitter at http://www.twitter.com/mochadad