Mean Girls

Mean girlMy daughter, Nee, is such a sweet little girl: pretty, smart, and well-mannered. She is also painfully shy and finds it difficult to make friends. That’s why it breaks my heart that most of her “friends” have turned out to be mean girls.

One day Nee and her friends are all happily playing Ring-Around-The-Rosey. The next day, her friends go out of their way to make Nee’s life miserable. Some of the girls spew venomous verbal attacks, others make her feel invisible, and a few of the little witches physically assault her. Because of her timid nature, I know that Nee has done nothing to provoke such evil behavior, but the mean girls insist on crushing my daughter’s self-esteem.

Did I mention that my daughter is only in second grade? At a Christian private school.

When I was in grade school, I witnessed girls treat each other horribly. They spread nasty rumors, stole each others’ boyfriends, and had awful cat fights. My friends and I were amused by their ridiculous behavior, and would often instigate confrontations. But when your daughter is the victim, mean girls aren’t so funny anymore.

Nee’s “friends” have driven her to tears on more occasions than I care to count. Every time I see her cry, I want to injure the miscreants who caused my precious daughter so much pain. No 8-year-old should have to deal with this type of mental anguish.

My wife and I have decided to transfer my daughter to another school, not because of the mean girls, but for several other reasons. However, I’m glad that Nee won’t have to endure another year of misery at the hands of her “friends.” But you can’t escape mean girls. They’re everywhere – lurking on the playground, sitting in the lunchroom, even in Sunday School classes at church. I’m at a loss on what to do to prevent a new set of mean girls from hurting my daughter.

Therefore, I need your help. Can you please tell me why girls/women are so mean to one another? If I knew the cause of this behavior, maybe I could help Nee cope with the girls at her school.

Stay Strong,

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Frederick J. Goodall

Frederick J. Goodall is the founder of Mocha Dad - a parenting website focused on fatherhood. He is passionate about parenting and helping men to be great dads, husbands, and role models. You can contact him at or on Twitter at