Provocative Outfits are Not Appropriate for Young Girls

When did it become acceptable for young girls to dress provocatively? My wife and I have a hard time finding modest clothes for my 7-year-old daughter, Nee. It seems that everything is cut tight and short. Things have gotten so out of control that we even have to censor Nee’s Barbie Doll’s clothing because we don’t want Barbie giving her any ideas.

I am outraged at our society’s attempts to sexualize our daughters. Why can’t we let them be children? Why are advertisers encouraging young girls to be sexy? As parents, we must take a stand against companies who market sexuality to our children. More importantly, we must teach our girls (and boys) that sexy does not equal beautiful and that modesty is a virtue. I really like what Michael Hyatt had to say in his blog post, “Whatever Happened to Modesty.” In the post, he outlined Four Guidelines for Modesty:

1. If you have trouble getting into it or out of it, it is probably not modest.
2. If you have to be careful when you sit down or bend over, it is probably not modest.
3. If people look at any part of your body before looking at your face, it is probably not modest.
4. If you can see your most private body parts or an outline of those parts under the fabric, it is probably not modest.

It’s crucial that we talk to our children about what’s appropriate and what isn’t. We must be involved in every aspect of their lives and help them to make good choices. We have the power to instill values, confidence, and self-worth in our children. It is up to us to counteract the media’s negative influence and teacher our daughters that their character is more important than their clothing.

Stay Strong,

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Frederick J. Goodall

Frederick J. Goodall is the founder of Mocha Dad - a parenting website focused on fatherhood. He is passionate about parenting and helping men to be great dads, husbands, and role models. You can contact him at or on Twitter at

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