A little over twelve years ago, I held my daughter in my arms for the first time. It was one of the happiest moments of my life. It was also one of the scariest. From that point on, I’d be responsible for raising another human being and guiding her through life. I was 31 at the time and I realized that had a lot of growing up to do, and fast. It’s not that I was immature. I was simply unprepared to be a father.
When I was a child, I couldn’t wait to be an adult. My mother warned me not to be in such a hurry to grow up. I didn’t understand what she meant until I grew up and was faced with going to work, paying bills, and filling out tax forms. But none of those things prepared me for the responsibilities of fatherhood. Although I was starting to figure out adulthood, I knew nothing about fatherhood. Never in my life did I feel more inadequate or clueless. However, I decided to place my insecurities aside and do what was necessary to make my daughter proud to call me dad.
The great part about being a dad is that it allows you to be a kid again. I enjoy reading comic books and playing video games with my sons. My daughter and I like to watch cat videos on YouTube or listen to the latest pop music. My kids keep me active and filled with a zest for life. I may be an adult, but my children keep me young.
In the following video, a father and daughter talk about what it means to be a grown up. I was touched by their conversation because it reminds me of the conversations I have with my 12-year old daughter. The video also reminds me that my time with my daughter is short. One day she will be a grown up. But I hope she always remains a child at heart.
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