A man shares a special bond with his mother. She is the first woman he loved and the one all other women are measured against.
My mother was the biggest influence in my life. She taught me many lessons about perseverance, hard work, leadership, faith, and serving others. I would not be the man I am today without the lessons that my mother instilled in me. More importantly, I wouldn’t be the dedicated dad that I strive to be. I learned how to be a parent by watching my mother. She wasn’t always perfect, but I she did the best that she could to keep me out of trouble and teach me wrong from right. Although it things weren’t always easy for our family, my mother managed to shepherd my sister and me into adulthood.
Throughout my life, I always knew I could count on my mother. She listened to me when I needed to talk, nurtured me when I was hurting, and encouraged me with uplifting words. In addition, she taught me the importance of patience, compassion, and making your family a priority by spending time with them.
To celebrate Mother’s Day, I asked a group of fathers to share some parenting lessons they learned from their mothers.
Lamar Tyler – Father of three and founder of Black and Married With Kids
Being raised by a single mom with three sons, I learned that you have to do whatever is necessary to care for your children. Whether your circumstances are ideal or not, you have to put in the work to raise your children.
Shawn Dennis – Father of two, graphic designer, and blogger at Dad Unmasked
Since I was a kid, my mom has always been very open and honest with me. No matter what type of question I had, she would answer it. I try to do the same thing with my kids. If they ask a question, no matter how difficult or “awkward” it might be at times, I try to answer to the best of my ability. I think my mother’s goal was for my sister and me to grow up to be fair and honest people. Which in turn has taught me that being fair and honest with my kids will help them to prosper now and later on in life.
Glen Guyton - Father of two, minister, and mentor to young people
The best thing my mother ever taught me was to love God and love myself. It’s funny. I don’t feel like my mother specifically taught me to achieve from a traditional sense, but she warned me not to waste the gifts and talents that God gave me. She also encouraged me to try new things, and she was also very, very supportive. She taught me how to instill faith into my kids – faith in God and faith in their gifts.
Paul Easter – Father of three and blogger at Dear Mister Man
My mother taught me perseverance. We went through a lot of adversity when I was a child. My parents’ divorce was just the start of the difficulties we encountered. I could see the stress weighing down on my mother as she struggled to make ends meet. She never gave up and always pushed forward. I would watch her closer than she ever realized. She never wanted us to know that times were hard, but she was also realistic in letting us know what she could and couldn’t do. We didn’t always have what we wanted, but we always had what we needed. She taught me to understand that the world is not an easy place to live in and that we can we push through the rough times and persevere with God on our side. I love you, mom. I thank you for this lesson which I have passed on to my children.
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Question: What lessons about parenting did your mom teach you?