In college, my wife, KayEm, and I worked as editors at our school’s yearbook. It was a good campus job that paid well and allowed us to use our talents. We really enjoyed working together and being able to spend so much time with each other. Throughout our shifts, we’d express our affection with hugs and kisses.
Apparently, our PDA didn’t go over well with the rest of the staff. Our Editor-in-Chief called a meeting to discuss the situation. KayEm and I sat on one side of the room while the rest of the staff surrounded us. They all complained that our displays of affection were making them uncomfortable. Kim and I were a bit surprised by this intervention, but we agreed to tone it down.
Several years post-college, KayEm and I didn’t allow that experience to affect us because we continue to openly show our affection towards each other. However, the complaining parties aren’t a group of college kids, they’re our own kids.
We always greet each other with a kiss, slow dance in the kitchen, and embrace on the couch while watching television. The kids often try to wedge themselves between us or push us apart. When KayEm and I pucker up, we’re greeted by a chorus of “EWWWWWWWWW!” My two younger sons snicker in the background while my daughter rolls her eyes.
Although they find our PDA disgusting, we refuse to “tone it down.” We believe that it is important for our children to see their parents express love for each other. It is our intention to model a healthy, loving relationship for our kids even if they think it’s gross. Besides, I know that our hugs and kisses give them comfort and a sense of security.
Question: Do you and your partner openly show affection in front of your children? Did your parents?