25 Romantic Ideas for Men from Women

When it comes to romance, many men often are at a loss. Here’s a hint, guys: Do something that shows you’re thinking of her. A Hertfordshire University research study found that women ranked small gestures as quite romantic because they show men are ”thinking of them rather than themselves.” You don’t have to be Don Juan to be romantic. Although the grand romantic gestures such taking a trip to Paris or giving your mate Super Bowl tickets are great, it’s the small gestures that really make the biggest impact.

In my informal survey of blog readers, I can verify that this finding is accurate. I have compiled a list of 25 romantic ideas submitted by women. Men, take note. Here is your chance to become a romantic hero in your mates’ eyes.

25 ROMANTIC IDEAS

  • I find it romantic when my husband buys me flowers for no reason at all. He knows what it takes to get “lucky.” Smart man!! – Shelly
  • My husband makes me cards and he puts a lot of care and thought into the words and how they look. Sometimes they have cut-outs or add-ons. Sometimes they’re funny. Sometimes they’re sentimental. But they are always touching and romantic. – Nancy
  • I find the simple things in life romantic: Cooking together, . sitting at the counter or the Island and watching him cook a meal, receiving a simple card just to let me know he is thinking about me. – Clubcushions
  • What I find romantic are the little things. Dancing in the kitchen in the middle of the day, the coffee already brewed when I wake up in the morning and/or the lunches unexpectedly already packed. The little things that say, “you’re special and I love you.” – WeaselMomma

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  • I like it when my husband gives me a foot massage using peppermint foot lotion. – Deborah
  • Eye contact. Lots of eye contact. It’s too easy to stop making it. – Lori
  • 100% romantic is a totally clean house that got that way through HIS efforts, not mine! – Los angelista
  • I like it when he runs me a hot bubble bath with vanilla scented candles around the tub and the red light on over the tub. – Parlinmom
  • Every single night my husband makes sure there’s a tall glass of ice water on my nightstand just in case I get up in the middle of the night needing a drink. When he goes on deployments, I truly miss this very simple but meaningful and romantic gesture. – Tanyetta
  • I would be perfectly happy just to spend the night watching movies, cuddled up and neither one of us or the kids are sick! – Nicole
  • When my boo calls me in the morning when I am not expecting it….just to tell me good morning and to have a great day…..it most certainly works and it makes me feel all warm and cozy! – Brandi Hamilton

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  • My husband works late almost every night, but makes sure he is home on Monday nights so that we can watch 24 together. It is nice because he knows that it is the only TV show I watch. I love that that is our show…our hour of for sure time each week! We make popcorn & enjoy the show…together:) – He & Me + 3
  • I find those extra little thoughtful gestures romantic. You know, the ones that only happen every so often. Ones that make me know he’s thinking of me and that I’m special. – Diana Rambles
  • Giving sentimental presents everyday for 2 weeks beginning on the 1st day of February. And just randomly calling to ask how I am. – Gabrielle
  • Romance is the silence which occurs in the seconds after kissing the kids goodnight and closing the door behind us. Romance is hugging my husband with kids clinging to our legs threatening the balance we’ve managed to sustain. Romance is watching any program which repeatedly states “Viewer Discretion Advised” because this means we have successfully achieved romantic item number one. Romance is just being with my husband no matter what whirlwind in which we currently reside. – Lauren H
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    Romance is when my hubby helps with the laundry or dishes, because he knows that I am tired and him helping makes it go twice as fast:) – Kelli

  • Sitting on the beach together, holding hands, and watching the sunset . . . perfection! – Kat
  • I find intellect romantic and sexy. When my baby shares something so profound with me that I have to sit and ponder for a minute, I appreciate the inner beauty and can divulge in the romantic side of sharing real intimacy without even being physical. – Kym
  • There is nothing more romantic to me, than a small gesture. Offer to help me cook dinner. Leave me a love note on the bathroom mirror. Walk over and kiss me, just because. Romance doesn’t have to cost a cent. – Mary Jo
  • I find it romantic that my hubby cleans up after me when I cook. That he gets up with the boys early in the morning, so I can sleep a few more minutes. Flowers and jewelry are nice, but the little things make romance to me. – Jenni Williams
  • I love to stand out on our dock and look at the water at dusk with my sweetie. I also love waking up at the lake and having a hot cup of coffee while peering out at the water. – Liv
  • A card with wording that proves he actually took the time to pick out the perfect one. Holding hands. A spontaneous picnic…even if it’s on the living room floor. Strip UNO. Dinner at a Moroccan restaurant where you sit on gigantic pillows and eat with your fingers…feeding each other. A night where the kids are with relatives. – Christie – The ChatterBox
  • I like long drives together. The conversations remind me of why I love him so much! When we’re at home it’s much different. Daily life keeps conversations to the general stuff, like family, work, boring stuff. However, on those long drives we just talk about…well whatever. – Tomi
  • Taking the day off to spend my 40th birthday with me was AMAZING! It meant so much to me that he took the day off. Kids were in school…we went for a run, went into the city for lunch, and he made dinner. It was a fantastic day! – Susan
  • Anytime hubby does something for me I find it romantic. He is my hero. – Deborah

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Frederick J. Goodall is the founder of Mocha Dad - a parenting website focused on fatherhood. He is passionate about parenting and helping men to be great dads, husbands, and role models. You can contact him at fjgoodall@mochadad.com or on Twitter at http://www.twitter.com/mochadad
  1. This is a fantastic list! It is the little things in life that are the most romantic. But, the strip UNO does sound intereesting. :) Happy Valentine’s Day to you and KayEm.

  2. This is a fantastic list! It is the little things in life that are the most romantic. But, the strip UNO does sound intereesting. :) Happy Valentine’s Day to you and KayEm.

  3. Great List!—I think the most important thing is to be sure the most romantic gift isn’t always something that can be bought in a store. We are all married to some really great and romantic men! WOW! That’s a beautiful gift. Happy Valentines Day to everyone!

  4. Great List!—I think the most important thing is to be sure the most romantic gift isn’t always something that can be bought in a store. We are all married to some really great and romantic men! WOW! That’s a beautiful gift. Happy Valentines Day to everyone!

  5. Splendid list you got there. :)

    I’d just add that the most romantic thing a hubby can do for his sweetie is speak to her love languages. If she feels loved most by acts of service, wash the dishes or make her coffee before work in the morning. If it’s quality time, surprise her with a babysitter and a night out with you. And so on.

  6. Splendid list you got there. :)

    I’d just add that the most romantic thing a hubby can do for his sweetie is speak to her love languages. If she feels loved most by acts of service, wash the dishes or make her coffee before work in the morning. If it’s quality time, surprise her with a babysitter and a night out with you. And so on.

  7. The most romantic thing happened on Valentine’s Day at my bf’s mom’s birthday party. He made a toast to her and thanked her for setting the bar so high for him when it comes to women. He mentioned that people often ask why he is still unmarried and it is because he has yet to find a woman who compares to his mother but he has finally found her. Me. I’m bossy when I need to be, caring, protective and a hard worker, everything he has ever wanted. He told everyone in the room, including most of his family who were meeting me for the first time in person, that he is in love and thankful he found me. :-) That definitely topped the romance list for me. Best gift ever.

  8. The most romantic thing happened on Valentine’s Day at my bf’s mom’s birthday party. He made a toast to her and thanked her for setting the bar so high for him when it comes to women. He mentioned that people often ask why he is still unmarried and it is because he has yet to find a woman who compares to his mother but he has finally found her. Me. I’m bossy when I need to be, caring, protective and a hard worker, everything he has ever wanted. He told everyone in the room, including most of his family who were meeting me for the first time in person, that he is in love and thankful he found me. :-) That definitely topped the romance list for me. Best gift ever.

  9. Pamela Allen -

    I think spontaneity is always romantic, that and surprises – just knowing my husband cares for me so much that he uses up all his creative juices to make me feel special. And since these things don’t happen all the time – I try to remember how romantic some of the little things are, like when he calls me beautiful, or when he empties the dishwasher without me asking him to.

  10. Pamela Allen -

    I think spontaneity is always romantic, that and surprises – just knowing my husband cares for me so much that he uses up all his creative juices to make me feel special. And since these things don’t happen all the time – I try to remember how romantic some of the little things are, like when he calls me beautiful, or when he empties the dishwasher without me asking him to.

  11. I think the most romantic thing my husband does is buying little trinkets for me. Not expensive stuff! Just a little candy bar shows me that he was thinking of me!
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  12. I think the most romantic thing my husband does is buying little trinkets for me. Not expensive stuff! Just a little candy bar shows me that he was thinking of me!
    .-= Cindy´s last blog ..Contests Today =-.

  13. My husband proposed to me in a gazebo on my college campus where we met, which I thought was pretty romantic. I find everyday conversation romantic…whenever we can just sit and relax and laugh together, I feel the spark between us re-ignited.

  14. My husband proposed to me in a gazebo on my college campus where we met, which I thought was pretty romantic. I find everyday conversation romantic…whenever we can just sit and relax and laugh together, I feel the spark between us re-ignited.

  15. Plan a surprise once every two weeks, do your share of cooking, dishes, and laundry, make her laugh, and you’ll be all set!

    Bryan

  16. Plan a surprise once every two weeks, do your share of cooking, dishes, and laundry, make her laugh, and you’ll be all set!

    Bryan

  17. This is a great post. I think it is all about the little things. I love it when my husband tells me everyday that I’m beautiful even when I don’t feel like I am at that moment! That can really uplift a wife!

  18. *james*girl*4life* -

    I find romance is like beauty and in the eye of the beholder. I find it romantic and sweet when my husband rubs my head, has flowers delivered, buys me house plants, gets up with the kids so I can rest, watching movies together, discussing things sexual and every day. How he has to have a kiss every night before bed and has only missed one night. Also turns me on when I watch him just be a awesome dad or helps around the house. Guess sometimes your more blessed than you know until you stop and think about it :) whatever you do, make it come from the heart… She just wants to know you think about her!

  19. My partner leaves a glass of water on my bedside, puts toothpaste my toothbrush and dishes out breakfast b4 he leaves for work. He might not be romantic but very thoughtful indeed.

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  22. The most romantic thing my husband did was when I was pregnant with our last child we had set a specific date together on when we were to do the nursery and 2 days before while I was taking a catnap after work he did the whole entire room It went from a blank canvas literally to a showroom it was really nice to see the walls (the whole shabang) were done the furniture put together and baby station I was impressed with his skills and he had the room spelling like a baby

  23. Kim Porter -

    Thank you for this list. Great ideas to keep my marriage fresh and the hubby happy.

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  25. My boyfriend is great with romance but our problem isn’t him but me, i’m not romantic enough he says. I’d like to see 25 romantic ideas for a women to do for a man, for balance if nothing else. Anna, Bristol